
An Uncomfortable Dinner
Luke 7: 36 – 50
Do you ever look at someone and see only what you want to see? Do you draw lines, put people in boxes, and keep them there because it feels easier? Safe?
Imagine yourself at a table, your dinner party, watching a stranger walk in. You don’t know her or his story, only that they are not like you. Do you make space for them? Or do you keep them at a distance, thinking they don’t belong?
Are you so sure of your own place at the table that you forget to make room for someone else?
Simon throws a party. I don’t like Simon. He is arrogant, rude, self-righteous, and judgmental. I like watching Jesus make Simon squirm and put his judgmental self in his place. “The one who is forgiven little loves little,” Jesus says (Luke 7: 47).
I like watching Simon’s face go red and seeing him embarrassed and humiliated until I realize that Jesus has gotten me. I am no better than Simon. I am Simom.
It doesn’t take me very long to realize that my judgmental and critical spirit has kept a person like the sinful woman away from the table of grace with the resources to restore her. What she needs is a community that understands forgiveness.
“Do you see this woman?” (Luke 7:44). There is a cost to seeing. It will force us to realize things about ourselves that we would rather not see.
Of course, Simon sees her. He has been judging the woman since she walked in. She is an embarrassment to his dinner party.
He isn’t blind. He’s filled with judgment. And yet, the judgment is making him blind. He doesn’t see her humanity, extravagant generosity, or capacity to show love. He doesn’t see her as forgiven. He only sees her as an object of his judgment.
The woman walks away, hearing the words, “Your sins are forgiven….Your faith has saved you. Go in peace.”
We don’t know what Simon walks away hearing. He drops out of the story. Has he changed?
There is a little Simon in all of us. So, you tell me, how do you see the woman?
The one who is forgiven little loves little.
What if we invested as much in welcoming others to the table as we do in judging people like Simon.? Imagine the difference our world would be.
There will be a time in your life when a woman like the one in our story comes along and simply says no to those who try to keep her away. She will say no to those who try to push her out when she walks in the room. She will refuse to settle for those who refuse to give her a seat at the table. She will ignore those who judge her instead of loving her.
She will say no because she has already heard Jesus say yes to her. She has heard the words of forgiveness, which have empowered her and given her back her identity and self-esteem.
And now she is ready to say, “Thank you!” She is ready to show her gratitude.
What if we were the community where the forgiven gather to say, “Thank you,” and the ones longing for forgiveness hear the words, “You are forgiven?” Imagine being a church—not just any church, but one where grace has replaced judgment.
Imagine a church where Jesus was our guest, and we welcomed as his guests all whom he invited.
An old rabbi was once asked by his students how they could tell when the night had ended and the day had begun. “Could it be,” asked one of his students, “when you see an animal in the distance and can tell whether it is a sheep or a dog?” “No,” said the rabbi.
Another asked, “Is it when you can look at a tree in the distance and tell whether it’s a fig tree or a peach tree?” “No,” replied the rabbi.
“Then when is it,” the students insisted. “It is when you can look on the face of any man or woman and see that it is your brother or your sister. Because if you cannot see this, it is still night.”
The one who is forgiven little loves little. Let us love deeply because we have been forgiven wide.
Based on Tuesday’s actions at the polls, we are in a different place this Sunday than last Sunday. So, let me say this: We’re challenged to move beyond our judgments and embrace each other with grace. Just as Simon’s critical spirit kept him from seeing the woman as Jesus did, we, too, are called to examine how our judgments may blind us to the humanity in others. Are we welcoming all to the table, or are we letting our differences divide us?
As we reflect on the story of Simon and the woman at Jesus’ feet, we are confronted with a powerful question: Do we see others as Jesus does? Too often, we become blind with judgment, keeping people at arm’s length, believing we are “protecting” the table of grace. Yet Jesus shows us that the table is precisely for those who, like us, need forgiveness, love, and restoration.
Imagine a church where every person who walks through the doors—no matter their past, their mistakes, or the judgments they’ve faced—can hear the words, “You are forgiven.” A church where grace is given freely, welcoming each one as a family. Imagine the lives transformed when we see people as Jesus does, breaking down the walls that keep them from the table and saying, “You belong here.”
Let’s ask ourselves: Are we building a community of grace or guarding a place of judgment? Let’s choose grace. Let us become the place where the forgiven gather to say “Thank you!” and those seeking forgiveness hear the life-changing words, “You are forgiven.”
This week, let’s step into that light together. Embrace the call to love deeply, welcome warmly, and forgive freely. Let’s build the kind of church that Jesus envisions—a church where all can come to know his love. Who will you invite to the table today?
Pastor Jamey
(Click Here to Watch the Worship Service from Gainesville First United Methodist Church, Gainesville, Georgia)
Questions to Consider:
- Have you ever found yourself judging someone based on first impressions or appearances? How did that affect your interactions with them?
- What are some common “boxes” or labels we put people in, and why do we do it? How can we challenge ourselves to break these habits?
- In what ways do you find it challenging to see others through the lens of grace and forgiveness, as Jesus did with the woman in Luke 7?
- The sermon mentions, “There is a cost to seeing.” What do you think that cost is, and why might it be challenging to face it?
- What actions can you take this week to show someone they are seen, valued, and invited to the “table” of community and grace?
Prayer:
Forgiving God, We confess that, like Simon, we have often judged when we should have loved and excluded when we should have welcomed. Forgive us, Lord, for the ways we have kept others from Your table of grace by our blindness and judgment.
Help us see each person through the eyes of Christ—with compassion and kindness. Teach us to create a community where grace replaces judgment and where every soul feels welcome to say, “Thank you” for the gift of forgiveness.
We offer our hearts and lives to You, asking for Your Spirit to guide us as we seek to walk in Your light and spread Your love to all who seek it. May we leave here with renewed purpose, empowered to be the community of grace You have called us to be. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
Benediction:
As you go from here, may you carry the grace of Christ in your heart, letting it fill every corner of your life. May you see others as Jesus sees them—not with judgment, but with a love that welcomes and forgives. Let His grace guide you to build a community that invites, restores, and unites.
And as you journey through this week, think of someone who might need a place at the table, a word of hope, or simply the warmth of belonging. Invite them to join us, to sit with us, and to experience the love that has transformed our lives.
Go in peace, with open hearts and open hands, ready to share the boundless grace of God. Amen.

